Yesterday was one for me. I spent hours sewing a dress for my daughter's third birthday. We made a big deal out of picking the fabric together and everything. I had made her dresses for both her first and second birthdays, so I felt I needed to continue this tradition. We moved to our new house 3 weeks before and I intentionally left my sewing stuff behind so I could finish her dress in time. Then came time to wear the dress for her portraits we do no her birthday each year. Major tantrum time. Refusal to even look at said dress. Expressions of how she doesn't like it, etc. Mommy trying really hard not to be hurt.....Saved by blizzard and studio closing. Rescheduled session, canceled by snow again. Yesterday was take 3 :)
Prepped her all week that I was picking her up from school early to take her for her pictures. Showed her pictures from past years. Talked about how special the dress was to mommy.
Pick up from school went great, and she got dressed without much fuss. Then it took 30 minutes to drive to the studio in traffic. Then the I do not want pictures started. "Mommy, I do not want my photo taken, please" Much harder to deal with reasonable requests than baby tantrums because she has a point.
Discussion ensued while driving that this was really important to mommy, etc. Then it happened......yep, I offered her a "treat" if she sat for her photos. I bribed my child. Not proud, but it did work.....and it's not bribery, it's situation specific motivation....
She first asked for candy. I said she could pick out food, or maybe a new toy, dvd, jewelry, etc. Ended up with a princess toy cash register with fake food. But at least she is now "ringing up" apples, grapes and milk instead of eating candy.
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